How to ditch the cookie cutter Happiness syndrome
Far too often, I feel torn between what I want, what I should want (hello peer pressure), and what should be good for me for x,y,z reasons.
Think about what the media, the books, the TV soap operas, the trash TV are showing you over and over. They engrained you ideas that you want this over that… that you should do this over that… that you have to avoid this over that…
It’s kind of frantic to just process all this information and find a safe balance between all these things at once. Even if I’m a good natural data processor… too much is too much.
It’s draining and sad to see how much constraints you find around Happiness. It’s like having an internal mandatory To Do List of things to do/ be/ have and, at the end, tadam…. you’re happy.
That’s what I call the Happiness Syndrome. As a result, you’re brainwashed to wish the exact same happiness as your neighbours, your BFF, your sisters etc…
Get over the Happiness Syndrome, one step at a time!
Don’t beat yourself up. You won’t change the world overnight.
Yet, you can do it one step at a time and see major improvements in your daily life. One tiny thing like opening your window in the morning to breathe some fresh air may boost your mood or reduce your daily stress level.
Maybe you’ll learn that to beat the cookie cutter happiness syndrome, you’ve got a better time to read before bed or lift weight with your college son or run with your high school BFF.
The choice is yours.
In this “Happiness Syndrome” episode, I’ll discuss:
- why happiness is not a one size fits all
- why external validation is a sure path to anxiety and sadness
- 3 simple tips to reframe and design what happiness means to you
- how Summer can support your new beliefs system
Ready to say goodbye to the Happiness Syndrome? The best is yet to come.
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No Idea Whatsoever About What Hygge Is?
Don’t worry. I got your back. 😉
If you’re already a Hygge fan, just skip this part and start enjoying today’s blog post.
Still with me?
Ok.. awesome. Time to have fun.
It’s a feeling you can’t buy of safety, warmth, peace, calm, contentment, and everything in between.
Based on cosiness, togetherness, and uniqueness, it’s a whole guide to craft a cosiness-based way of life for you AND your family.
To me, Hygge is like a roadmap to enjoy simple pleasure, slow down, unplug, and eventually becoming unapologetically yourself.
How can I learn more about it?
1/ Read the reviews I made at How The Hygge Book helps me to love my own quirks
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How do you pronounce it?
Truth is, no one cares how you pronounce it as long as you can experience it day in and day out.
That said, it’s commonly admitted to be [HOO-GA] .
Keep it simple and don’t over complicate the process.
If you don’t get it the first time, no big deal.
Is there a Hygge lifestyle?
YES!! and I mean absolutely without the shadow of a doubt.
Hygge is more than just a list of things to do or have. It’s NOT a decor (see below for more infos).
If you’re quiet/ introvert, chances are you’re already living a Hygge lifestyle without even knowing it. Now, you can model what you’re already good at to enjoy that cosy, comfy, and homey feelings 24/7.
If you’re totally new and you’d love to implement that simple, decluttered, down to earth, eco friendly, and comfy way of living for your family, that’s totally doable.
Truth it, it’s WHY I created this entire site: to provide you the tools, the resources, and the inspiration to turn your life into a cosiness-based living without adding stress. (To get a weekly dose of cosiness-based pep talk, join #TheHyggeLounge HERE )
Where does it come from?
Hygge comes from Denmark (but the word itself comes for Norway). At some point in history, Norway and Denmark were one kingdom only.
For the records:
– the first mention of Hygge is circa 1840 (which means Hygge is everything but a fad trends)
– Denmark is ranking on the top 3 of the happiest countries in the world every singe year!
– the tax level in Denmark is one of the highest in the world. Yet, the citizens ARE full of happiness.
—> Who doesn’t want to model what the happiest people in the world are doing to be happy, content, and joyful day in and day out? I know I do (so does my Great Grand Mother in her journals)
Is Hygge only a decor for Fall & Winter?
This is a common myth I HAVE to bust once and for all. Danish people don’t stop living 6 months of the year. They enjoy and practice Hygge ALL YEAR LONG.
They just adapt what they do and how they do it. It’s definitely easier to have a snow day in winter and it’s definitely easier to have a BBQ outside in the middle of Summer.
Hygge is not stuck in Fall & Winter nor is a home decor.
If you want a decor, ask a professional to set up a stage… You won’t feel better in a snap because you have a fireplace and tonnes of fairy lights.
If it was that simple, everyone would be happy and medication wouldn’t be needed to avoid anxiety.
(If you’re under medication, NEVER EVER stop without a professional help. Asking for help should be your #1 priority. There’s no shame nor guilt to seek for a better health, or a better mental clarity)
You don’t have to spend $$$ to revamp your living room so it looks like a country living magazine cover… and you can show off on Instagram. Hygge is NOT a popularity contest. There’s no mandatory list of items to buy.
You can live Hygge in a moroccan house, a contemporary penthouse, a cottage close to the sea, a tiny house, a small apartment that looks like a boudoir, or a fancy super modern house. Hygge is what you made out of it.
Eh… you’re done with the introduction.
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– request your invitation for #TheHyggeLounge HERE
– check our workbook to craft a cosiness-based way of life for your family in 7 days HERE
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