Why Introverts love Cosiness
Coming out as Quiet or as Introvert seems to be all over the Internet recently. Every coach around, babbling webinar experts is a self-proclaimed Quiet… (The truth is, only 30% of the world population are Introverts)
😱 Do you see my eyes rolling? I hope you could see me right now as I’m typing.
It’s like being left-handed (only 10% of the world population has that asset and it’s stable over the time).
Anyways, lucky me, I’m both…. introvert & lefty.
And you know what my superpower is? I can tell who is amazingly awesome: *YOU! My dear reader.*
Fasten your seatbelt, we’re ready to take off … Grab your coffee and your notebook, the fun begins now.
What being introvert means?
Being an introvert is not being a member of a secret society with secrets handshakes, uncommon diet habits, chants under the moon with the sacrifice of an innocent piece of chocolate. (and YES, it’s a pinnable pic to save for later)
Well… speaking of chocolate… I digress. 🤩
Being introvert has nothing to deal (either) with your intelligence level, your skills, your talents, or your ability to be successful.
But, being introvert may have some impact on the way you communicate because you’ll be more at ease with small groups or when you use a written medium, or when you’re indirectly using your voice (think about voice over, podcast hosts…).
You don’t have to take my words for granted, here’s a little sum up of my background.
– I’m an INFJ (as known as the advocate Personality)
– I’ve earned 3 degrees in civil law & criminal law
– I’m Summa Cum Laude from the University of Lausanne with almost the perfect score possible
– I’ve earned my PhD in Criminology from the university of Montreal with honours
– I speak 4 languages
– I’ve got certifications in marketing, business, event planning, interior design, web design
– I’ve written 5 books, dozens of poems, 1 novel…
and the list can go on and on…
The point is not to brag about my success, it’s to show you that being introvert is NOT a curse or a disease to cure.
Yes, you can be, do, and have everything you want when you’re introvert. It doesn’t take more time but it may require to step outside your comfort zone from time to time.
To me, the main difference between extrovert and introvert takes place in the way we rest or restore when we’re tired. –> Introverts love cosiness (cos’ we need it)
Introverts will be happy to spend time alone, sometimes in silence, doing things on their own. They will avoid chit chat and huge groups. They will find creative activities as rewarding and even joyful. They may love spending time in Nature, taking care of their garden, or reading a book, hiking on a mountain…
Extroverts will be more inclined to gather, to talk with large groups, to share their opinions using their voice. They need to be surrounded to be comfortable and happy. They love the emulation of the groups (and they are not always the leaders, by the ways).
Each of these traits of personality has its own advantage and, let me be clear, it’s not better to be extrovert than introvert (or vice versa). It’s just of mode of operation. The earlier you know yours, the quicker you can use what works for you.
If you’re not sure whether you’re introvert or extrovert, you can test the free test on www.16personalities.com (this is a good indication, not something stuck in the marble. Be wise)
Why now is the best moment to fall in love with cosiness (especially if you’re introvert/ quiet)?
During Fall and Winter, it’s a little easier to stay at home and to « hide and seek » from the people you don’t really want to meet. Feeling cosy and snuggling at home is reachable in a snap during those seasons.
Hopefully, the snow is over (unless you are in South hemisphere) and the rainy days may not be as frequent as you think. In plain old English, how on earth are you supposed to embrace cosiness during Spring and/or Summer?
Easy! You follow your instinct. Cosiness as an introvert is not dependable on the weather, the moment of the year, or the time of the day.
You may need to switch things so it fits with your needs but, basically, living a cosy life as a quiet human is more a choice than a set of rules to follow to a t.
Keep things simple and embrace what you have around you.
Don’t force yourself to spend your time outside every evening if you need time alone.
What is cosiness?
As I mentioned last month in our previous Coffee Talk, Cosiness is the quality of being comfortable, pleasant, and warm. Basically, you can experience cosiness everywhere from a garden, a coffee shop, a tropical beach, a museum, a cubicle, &, of course, your beloved home.
Cosiness is more of a state of mind, a sense of being where you’re supposed to be doing what you enjoy and without the social pressure of doing what others want you to do.
Cosiness comes in every form and every shape. There’s no universal definition of what is cosy and what’s not.
My mom thinks it’s cosy to knit, I’d prefer to write my new play. It’s perfectly OK to be different and still respect/ love each other. We have more to learn from our differences than from our resemblances.
It doesn’t really matter what kind of activities you enjoy, as long as you embrace the fact that introverts love cosiness for the feeling it brings to us.
Ok, but I’m not convinced yet
#1 Cosiness will help you to recharge your battery as an introvert
One of the easiest way to rest is to focus on doing what makes you feel awesome and stress free.
When you’re tired and depleted after a long day or a long week at work, you really deserve to tap into activities that will not only soothe your mind but also can be done almost mindlessly.
It’s not the time to spread yourself too thin or to try something wayyyyy out of your comfort zone. Keep things simple and focus on doing something sweet for you, spending time with your loved ones, resting…
It’s OK to do nothing. You won’t be a bad person if you need some Me Time, alone, to recharge.
#2 Cosiness may trigger your quiet/ inner creativity
For a huge portion of you, when you feel safe, secured, respected, and understood, your creative mind is starting to spin like a curvy hamster in a wheel.
You suddenly want to try cooking, hand lettering, crafting, DIYing, knitting, sewing, drawing, gardening, lifting weight, writing, playing, hiking… you name it. You may have that idea to start a blog or run a side business to have another income.
This, my friends, is the beginning of a new realm of fun, dedication, commitment, and loads of Hygge moments.
Test, try, tweak, and have fun knowing what you love and what you are passionate about. Set aside the « what will people say about me? » or the « I’m too old, tall, blonde, bright… to do that… »
#3 Cosiness is like a comfort zone you can stretch to be unapologetically you
Being introvert doesn’t equal you’re not worthy of time, love, self esteem. In fact, being an introvert is a chance to move mountains and add cosiness to your daily life.
In 30 years or so, I’ve moved about 36 times… My family is pretty tiny… My Dad has refused to meet me and let’s say the rest of my family is a special mix of … Well … They are who they are.
I’m often amazed when I hear people sharing stories from the home they’ve lived during 20 years, the friends they’ve kept for 30 years… Those lucky people may have developed a form of comfort zone (like their mini universe) and they feel the need to stretch it to become more adults.
In my case, I feel awesome when I’m capable of finding one point of reference in my past. Friends have come and gone… and I’ve never lived for more than a year in a house. I’ve been forced to build an internal comfort zone where I can hide, heal my wounds, and be ready to fight again when times are rough.
The beauty of this internal comfort zone is the freedom I have to be me. As long as I don’t harm anyone, I feel free to tell, be, do, have the behavior I want. I feel incredibly powerful and awesome because I know there’s always a place where I can be safe. I can be unapologetically me and it’s such a pleasant warm feeling to be authentic.
It’s time to wrap up our Cosiness for Introvert!
This month is very… and I mean very special to me. I’m celebrating the first anniversary of The Hygge Planner.
I can’t stress enough how grateful I am and how lucky I feel to be surrounded by such a wonderful community. Without YOU, things would be different.
Without your help, your support, your ideas, The Hygge Planner would have stayed a crazy idea on the back up of my analytical brain. In fact, I would have probably keep my introvert personality in the closet & I wouldn’t have shared the amazing things I’ve learnt from my lineage.
No Idea Whatsoever About What Hygge Is?
Don’t worry. I got your back. 😉
If you’re already a Hygge fan, just skip this part and start enjoying today’s blog post.
Still with me?
Ok.. awesome. Time to have fun.
It’s a feeling you can’t buy of safety, warmth, peace, calm, contentment, and everything in between.
Based on cosiness, togetherness, and uniqueness, it’s a whole guide to craft a cosiness-based way of life for you AND your family.
To me, Hygge is like a roadmap to enjoy simple pleasure, slow down, unplug, and eventually becoming unapologetically yourself.
How can I learn more about it?
1/ Read the reviews I made at How The Hygge Book helps me to love my own quirks
2/ Request a special invitation for #TheHyggeLounge at https://www.thehyggeplanner.com/newsletter
3/ Buy Meik Weiking’s book by clicking here (Where you’re buying from this link Amazon will give a percentage to WWF on your behalf. I’m not owning a penny nor a compensation by any means)
How do you pronounce it?
Truth is, no one cares how you pronounce it as long as you can experience it day in and day out.
That said, it’s commonly admitted to be [HOO-GA] .
Keep it simple and don’t over complicate the process.
If you don’t get it the first time, no big deal.
Is there a Hygge lifestyle?
YES!! and I mean absolutely without the shadow of a doubt.
Hygge is more than just a list of things to do or have. It’s NOT a decor (see below for more infos).
If you’re quiet/ introvert, chances are you’re already living a Hygge lifestyle without even knowing it. Now, you can model what you’re already good at to enjoy that cosy, comfy, and homey feelings 24/7.
If you’re totally new and you’d love to implement that simple, decluttered, down to earth, eco friendly, and comfy way of living for your family, that’s totally doable.
Truth it, it’s WHY I created this entire site: to provide you the tools, the resources, and the inspiration to turn your life into a cosiness-based living without adding stress. (To get a weekly dose of cosiness-based pep talk, join #TheHyggeLounge HERE )
Where does it come from?
Hygge comes from Denmark (but the word itself comes for Norway). At some point in history, Norway and Denmark were one kingdom only.
For the records:
– the first mention of Hygge is circa 1840 (which means Hygge is everything but a fad trends)
– Denmark is ranking on the top 3 of the happiest countries in the world every singe year!
– the tax level in Denmark is one of the highest in the world. Yet, the citizens ARE full of happiness.
—> Who doesn’t want to model what the happiest people in the world are doing to be happy, content, and joyful day in and day out? I know I do (so does my Great Grand Mother in her journals)
Is Hygge only a decor for Fall & Winter?
This is a common myth I HAVE to bust once and for all. Danish people don’t stop living 6 months of the year. They enjoy and practice Hygge ALL YEAR LONG.
They just adapt what they do and how they do it. It’s definitely easier to have a snow day in winter and it’s definitely easier to have a BBQ outside in the middle of Summer.
Hygge is not stuck in Fall & Winter nor is a home decor.
If you want a decor, ask a professional to set up a stage… You won’t feel better in a snap because you have a fireplace and tonnes of fairy lights.
If it was that simple, everyone would be happy and medication wouldn’t be needed to avoid anxiety.
(If you’re under medication, NEVER EVER stop without a professional help. Asking for help should be your #1 priority. There’s no shame nor guilt to seek for a better health, or a better mental clarity)
You don’t have to spend $$$ to revamp your living room so it looks like a country living magazine cover… and you can show off on Instagram. Hygge is NOT a popularity contest. There’s no mandatory list of items to buy.
You can live Hygge in a moroccan house, a contemporary penthouse, a cottage close to the sea, a tiny house, a small apartment that looks like a boudoir, or a fancy super modern house. Hygge is what you made out of it.
Eh… you’re done with the introduction.
If you want to dive deeper:
– request your invitation for #TheHyggeLounge HERE
– check our workbook to craft a cosiness-based way of life for your family in 7 days HERE
– download our 108 Done for You ideas to practice Hygge as a family (when you have no time for brainstorm) HERE
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